Celina Jaitly recalls her struggles in marriage after Twisha Sharma's death
Actor Celina Jaitly reacted to Twisha Sharma's death with an emotional note on abuse within marriage. She urged families to listen to daughters who reach out for help and said emotional abuse often remains unseen behind closed doors.
Actor Celina Jaitly on Monday reacted to the death of 33-year-old Twisha Sharma with a long Instagram note on abuse within marriage, saying that marriage is not always "happily ever after". In the post, she wrote about isolation, emotional suffering and violence behind closed doors, and said Sharma's case had shaken the nation.
Sharma's death case has drawn wide attention in recent days. Her family has accused her husband and mother-in-law of dowry harassment and abetment to suicide. Celina linked the case to the wider reality of domestic abuse and also referred to her own experience of loneliness and emotional distress. Sharma's last rites were held on Sunday, 12 days after her death, after a second postmortem by a team from AIIMS Delhi on a high court order.
What Celina wrote
In November last year, Celina filed a case against her husband, Peter Haag, accusing him of domestic violence, cruelty and manipulation, and sought Rs 50 crore in compensation. She has also spoken openly about the emotional turmoil of staying away from her two boys, Winston and Viraaj.
In her note, Celina described Sharma as an educated, talented young woman whose life was consumed by abuse, isolation, emotional suffering and violence behind closed doors.
She also referred to the public conversation around the case, writing, "And while her ashes are not even cold, while her grieving family begged for answers, postmortems, & justice for their daughter, conversations around plants not being watered disturbed many people watching this tragedy unfold (sic)."
She said the case showed the frightening reality of abuse, where the suffering of women can become so normalised that their pain slowly stops mattering to the people around them.
She added, "Marriage is not always happily ever after," and said the loneliest form of violence is sometimes the one nobody sees. She wrote that abuse is not only about bruises, and that sometimes it takes the form of isolation, being slowly cut off from one's world, living in a foreign place with no family or support system, being made to feel like the problem, or facing humiliation behind closed doors while the world believes life is beautiful.
Her personal account
Celina also spoke about her own situation. She wrote, "In my own case, my parents had already passed away, I was no longer financially independent, & above all, I had three small children (sic)."
The actor said she stayed longer than she should have because she believed keeping the family together was the right thing to do and did not want her children to suffer.
She shared that she had no one to turn to and felt ashamed to admit how lonely she had become, and added that isolation deepens with time, the walls become quieter and heavier, and the days blur until one begins doubting one's own reality.
Ending her note, she wrote, "You begin convincing yourself that surviving is the same thing as living (sic)," and added, "My heart goes out to Twisha Sharma's family, & to every woman suffering behind closed doors. Parents, friends, & family, if your daughter reaches out to you, bring her back."
She concluded the note by saying they should not let abuse consume their daughter.
Actor Celina Jaitly on Monday reacted to the death of 33-year-old Twisha Sharma with a long Instagram note on abuse within marriage, saying that marriage is not always "happily ever after". In the post, she wrote about isolation, emotional suffering and violence behind closed doors, and said Sharma's case had shaken the nation.
Sharma's death case has drawn wide attention in recent days. Her family has accused her husband and mother-in-law of dowry harassment and abetment to suicide. Celina linked the case to the wider reality of domestic abuse and also referred to her own experience of loneliness and emotional distress. Sharma's last rites were held on Sunday, 12 days after her death, after a second postmortem by a team from AIIMS Delhi on a high court order.
What Celina wrote
In November last year, Celina filed a case against her husband, Peter Haag, accusing him of domestic violence, cruelty and manipulation, and sought Rs 50 crore in compensation. She has also spoken openly about the emotional turmoil of staying away from her two boys, Winston and Viraaj.
In her note, Celina described Sharma as an educated, talented young woman whose life was consumed by abuse, isolation, emotional suffering and violence behind closed doors.
She also referred to the public conversation around the case, writing, "And while her ashes are not even cold, while her grieving family begged for answers, postmortems, & justice for their daughter, conversations around plants not being watered disturbed many people watching this tragedy unfold (sic)."
She said the case showed the frightening reality of abuse, where the suffering of women can become so normalised that their pain slowly stops mattering to the people around them.
She added, "Marriage is not always happily ever after," and said the loneliest form of violence is sometimes the one nobody sees. She wrote that abuse is not only about bruises, and that sometimes it takes the form of isolation, being slowly cut off from one's world, living in a foreign place with no family or support system, being made to feel like the problem, or facing humiliation behind closed doors while the world believes life is beautiful.
Her personal account
Celina also spoke about her own situation. She wrote, "In my own case, my parents had already passed away, I was no longer financially independent, & above all, I had three small children (sic)."
The actor said she stayed longer than she should have because she believed keeping the family together was the right thing to do and did not want her children to suffer.
She shared that she had no one to turn to and felt ashamed to admit how lonely she had become, and added that isolation deepens with time, the walls become quieter and heavier, and the days blur until one begins doubting one's own reality.
Ending her note, she wrote, "You begin convincing yourself that surviving is the same thing as living (sic)," and added, "My heart goes out to Twisha Sharma's family, & to every woman suffering behind closed doors. Parents, friends, & family, if your daughter reaches out to you, bring her back."
She concluded the note by saying they should not let abuse consume their daughter.
