'Darpok Madrasi man' R Madhavan on staying loyal to wife in 27 years of marriage

R Madhavan recently reflected on his nearly three-decade-long marriage with wife Sarita, speaking about why loyalty has never been a struggle for him even after years in the film industry. The actor, who celebrated his 27th wedding anniversary on June 6, opened up about his relationship values and how he balances fame with family life.

In an interview with ETimes, he said, "I am that darpok (fearful) Madrasi middle-class man and while I am extremely attracted to attractive girls, at the end of the day, I balance off going back home and cuddling my wife as opposed to giving an excuse on why I am not there."

Madhavan said loyalty, for him, is deeply rooted in his upbringing and family traditions.

“I think to be loyal is a family trait. My entire family till the end of their lives remained so loyal to Jamshedji Tata that we actually had a photo of his, along with all the Gods with the mala. So honestly, I will have to go out of my way to not be loyal."

He added that despite working with many admired co-stars, he has always valued the comfort of returning to his wife Sarita and his home life.

The actor also shared that Sarita has complete access to his phone and financial accounts, and is actively involved in managing their finances.

Madhavan recalled filmmaker Mani Ratnam’s advice not to test relationships unnecessarily during good phases.

"Mani Ratnam gave me an advice on how not to have to test relationships. He said, when there is something going good with a relationship, don't keep testing it to see how much she loves you. Just let it be. Sometimes testing is the thing that spoils everything."

He further recalled that even after gaining fame, he chose to remain open about his marriage rather than hide it, despite suggestions from some people in the industry.

"I would open all my girl fan mail along with Sarita. I would insist on taking her for any exotic outdoor shoots, not because I wanted her to know that I am loyal, but I didn't want to test myself."

R Madhavan and Sarita got married in 1999 and are parents to their son, Vedaant Madhavan.